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There's no such thing as a perfect mother

We are meant to love our mothers. Whatever they do, however embarrassingly they behave. But we don’t get to choose them. And who is there to tell us how to cope when they turn out to be unlovable, devious, cruel, bullying, exhaustingly anxious, or just not very bright? How many of us grow up silently promising never to repeat our mother’s worst shortcomings?